Just last week I was treated to a long lament about “the good old days” when men could be men all the time but now they have to retreat to places like Hooters in order to do the things that men like to do naturally. The office was a place where playful banter was acceptable and men knew the limits and it’s this politically correct culture that has made the workplace hostile to men. Now, I hate political correctness. I think it’s silly and I think that we have effectively made it a crime to offend someone in certain circumstances. We are definitely breeding a culture of oversensitivity and thin skin in this country. I do disagree with the notions of harmless playful banter or that women were treated respectfully by their co-workers. I also acknowledge that most men, certainly men with normal healthy sex drives, enjoy looking at women in skimpy outfits and also like having pretty women paying attention to them even if there is nothing sexual behind it. This is normal. I disagree entirely that the workplace is an appropriate location to indulge in these activities.
As much as I have railed in the past about women who dress inappropriately in the workplace and how much they should be expected to be taken seriously, the flip side is that there are some very hard working women who do present themselves in a professional manner that deserve respect as peers. Indulging in relatively harmless male behavior is not the way to show respect to a woman. While I think people should have fun at work, we are still a professional environment and I expect everyone to have a certain standard of behavior. Certainly, when I am away from the office those standards can fall away. I think I surprise people when we get off-site and I am lot more open in my thoughts and casual in manner. The difference is that the workplace is a place for work and all other distractions are a detriment to that. Professional behavior is not about political correctness but efficiency. Let’s face it, unprofessional behavior can lead to personal issues that can affect the final outcome of our work. Anytime I have to spend trying to resolve petty disputes between Employee A and Employee B just means I am not spending time working on productive tasks and the involved parties are unlikely to be fully productive either.
Women in the workplace deserve to be treated according to their merits. Men who want to indulge in their overall maleness should not do so at their co-workers expense. I’ve worked in environments where “playful banter” could be quite common and even encouraged. There was nothing quite like spending 4 hours in training about sexual harassment only to have a female deputy grab my ass on the first day of work! However, despite the rowdy behavior the culture still demanded that we treat those women as equals. These were people who had to watch our back and there was definitely a need to be more comfortable and possibly more casual than the office environment that I work in now.
Women in a professional environments have a difficult challenge because they are expected to be feminine but run the risk of not being taken seriously. Sadly, even today there are men who see women as their inferiors in the workplace. To me, a woman who is more interested in showing off her work rather than her chest deserves to be recognized. No, this is not a double standard, but professional office environments are rarely attract men who are little more than brainless beefcake. What happens all too often is that women who try to get by on their looks have a negative impact on those that are trying to honestly contribute to the bottom line. All the more reason to take people on an individual basis and not judge them based on things like gender. Being attractive is not a crime either. A woman who happens to be attractive yet is also good at her job deserves to be treated as a valued team member and not eye candy. I don’t miss “the good old days”. The good old days might have been a more comfortable time, but they were also times when a woman would have to put up with remarks and attitudes they did not deserve. Really, this isn’t a gender issue. People should be treated with respect. There was a time when it was socially acceptable to disrespect a woman and no one would raise an eyebrow. Maybe this didn’t happen all the time, but it happened often enough.